How can I help a hoarding friend or family member de-clutter?
Attempts by family and friends to help with de-cluttering may not be well received by the person who hoards.
It is helpful to keep in mind:
• Until the person is internally motivated to change they may not accept your offer to help.
• Motivation cannot be imposed.
• Everyone, including people who hoard, has a right to make choices about their objects and how they live.
• People who hoard are often ambivalent about accepting help and discarding objects
Mass Housing.com Hoarding Resources
How to Talk to Someone with Hoarding: Do’s and Don’ts
Harm Reduction for the Elderly- By John O'Brien Central Coast Senior Services
"The goal is to work towards improving problematic behaviors while recognizing
It is a non-confrontational and non-judgmental approach. Not every older
When a Loved One Hoards
by David Tolin Author of Buried Treasures Oxford University Press
"Some general principals to guide conversations:
Show Empathy: Don't Argue; Respect Autonomy; Help the person recognize that his/her actions
are inconsistent with his/her greater goals or values."
The Way to Help
a Family Member
How Compulsive Hoarding Affects Family found on IOCDF - Web site:
Caring.com, Family Advisor, April 20, 2010
by Dorothy Breininger
Animal Hoarding and Families
Tips for families and friends
Intervention is possible but challenging, requiring tact and patience.
The Hoarding of Animals Research Consortium web site.
ABC News Videos, 20/20, August 05, 3011
Hoarder's Children Speak Out
Hoarders Daughter Keeps Shameful Secret
Children of Hoarders It Gets Better
Helping Your Loved One Manage Clutter, Hoarding & Compulsive Acquiring
by Tamara Hart PhD., Michael Tompkins, PhD.
This book gives manageable steps for helping your loved one make gradual and lasting change.